4. If a person you’re friends with or dating treats you bad, that’s not likely to change. Ever.
As someone who is against quitting on relationships and people without a fight, I do believe there are times when you’ve got to realize that you just aren’t being treated well – or even decently for that matter. Look, it’s hard to change, just think about how set in your own ways you are, and how difficult it is when you attempt to break habits and alter your instincts. Now as trying as that is, you’re looking at an improbable challenge if you try to change another person. In fact, you shouldn’t even attempt to, especially when dealing with flat-out mean spirited, inconsiderate folks.
When someone shows you who they are, you’re supposed to accept it, but sometimes we don’t want to. We want to believe that a person we care for can be better, so we hope that the ugly we saw was just a rare bad moment, and a flash of their unpleasant side. But when one incident turns into two, and two to three, and so on, we’ve got to stop kidding ourselves and accept the facts. It truly sucks when we thought we saw the sparkly glisten of a friendship or relationship, but it was nothing more than fool’s gold.